A&Q about Lotus
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My wife asked me if I get a lot of girls hitting on me because of the car. I told her the truth.
10% of the time a girl will throw a little flirt my way because of the car. 10% of those will be cute.
90% of the attention is from guys.
She's really cool about the car. Last weekend at the track, after hearing Frankie's and Jefferson's cars, she tole be I should get an aftermarket exhaust too!
xtn
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This is dreamcar's wife, in case you want a female perspective... (and don't hold "dreamcar" responsible for my babbling... but I'm more addictied to this site than he is...!)
I personally am IN LOVE with our new Lotus, just listening to her start up sends chills down my spine and the 1st day I could rev her about 4500 RPM (damn break-in period), I thought I was going to die of sheer excitement... And if I wasn't pregnant and getting close to the point where I won't FIT in the car, I would be trying out the theory of just how small the front seat REALLy is... lol
I have no patience when I see women try to control their husbands/boyfriends/what-have-you in such a manner - I just can't imagine playing mind games with someone I love that way. If I was truly bothered by something (ie/ it offended me or I worried for my husband's safety), then I would bring it up in a manner that explains how I feel and shows respect for both of us - I wouldn't threaten him - that's just crazy! No, this is not psycho-babble - it's basic respect.
I would seriously think about that - you don't control those that you love and you DON'T threaten them! Wow... just the thought of being treated that way would have me running...
Good luck - but I can guarantee you, it never (rarely?) gets better...
Enjoy your car - I've never had more fun in my life
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Originally Posted by xtn
90% of the attention is from guys.
xtn
I know, it's great
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Read post, the thread is redundant.
Eventhough we are back together, I feel as though I lost because I said "I'm sorry.". What am I sorry about? Haven't a clue, all we know is, the Elise never comes up and thats the way it is. Life goes on......
Saddens me that I don't see my "car friends" like I used to, but it's a huge deal.
John
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Originally Posted by DreamCar
This is dreamcar's wife, in case you want a female perspective... (and don't hold "dreamcar" responsible for my babbling... but I'm more addictied to this site than he is...!)
I personally am IN LOVE with our new Lotus, just listening to her start up sends chills down my spine and the 1st day I could rev her about 4500 RPM (damn break-in period), I thought I was going to die of sheer excitement... And if I wasn't pregnant and getting close to the point where I won't FIT in the car, I would be trying out the theory of just how small the front seat REALLy is... lol
I have no patience when I see women try to control their husbands/boyfriends/what-have-you in such a manner - I just can't imagine playing mind games with someone I love that way. If I was truly bothered by something (ie/ it offended me or I worried for my husband's safety), then I would bring it up in a manner that explains how I feel and shows respect for both of us - I wouldn't threaten him - that's just crazy! No, this is not psycho-babble - it's basic respect.
I would seriously think about that - you don't control those that you love and you DON'T threaten them! Wow... just the thought of being treated that way would have me running...
Good luck - but I can guarantee you, it never (rarely?) gets better...
Enjoy your car - I've never had more fun in my life
Hey! Wouldn't it be interesting to be the first to have a baby in an Elise?
Just kidding... I hope... Congrats!
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Well, I spent 40 days in 2006 away from home racing, and 22 nights. She was quite unhappy about it, but it still happened.
Divorce was on the horizon for almost a year. In hindsight, I should have gotten out. I got my Elise in the middle of it, and didn't really care what she thought. Surprisingly she asked me recently when I was getting my next one, although she is not happy with the possibility of white with green stripes, yet that's what I'm going to get unless I change my mind for LB.
Hmmm. Oh well, guess I don't need to prove to anyone I'm not whipped, but I would indeed have walked if I got the ultimatum. Still would today. If she says car or me, knowing how much I love the car, it's time to bolt anyway.
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Originally Posted by Surferjer
Hmmm. Oh well, guess I don't need to prove to anyone I'm not whipped, but I would indeed have walked if I got the ultimatum. Still would today. If she says car or me, knowing how much I love the car, it's time to bolt anyway.
I've said this many times here before, but I got the ultimatum last year from my fiance, two months before the wedding. "Me or the car."
Car is in the garage. Last I heard, she was somewhere in NYC. Obviously, we're both better off.
It's not about the car. Ultimatums are no way to communicate, and this would have been the first of many. No thank you.
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Originally Posted by cbelon
I think there is a pattern starting. 1st she was jealous of my new puppy and then my car. Next it will be the chick I meet out every afternoon I take out the Elise
I think she has to go before she kills my car.
All I can say is shame on you for wanting such a needy, insecure person. You're an enabler. Both of ya get therapy!
The telepathic mastermind "Serebro" above me said it best... only the Sith deal in absolutes.
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My wife was upset because the car seemed to be such a classic case of mid-life crisis and didn't fit my personality to do that. Well it wasn't. Rather it was latent car-guy. I have never been a car guy in the classic sense. Give me a car that works and I can get to and from work, I was happy. Once I sat in the Elise and drove it, my latent want a 911 from my early 20s popped out. I couldn't believe how my heart raced when I thought about that first ride.
Since I could afford the car without materially affecting our life at all. I did however miss a few cues to talk about it and explain where I was coming from. That caused there to be issues about it that took a while to clear up. I would certainly deal with it differently.
Now, if you are a car guy from way back and spend time, effort, money on cars and have from the moment you met her, then she has no place to stand being negative toward the Elise. The other thing is it is not a chick car at all. I think it's funny the teen girls to early 20-something women seem to go crazy for the car. Older than that they look at it like it's a toy car or something testosterone driven.
Oh well. I didn't get it to impress anyone. I got it to drive.
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Ultimatums are no way to communicate, and this would have been the first of many. No thank you.
ding. Also, if she really cared about your happiness she'd support you having the car. Who wants to be married to someone who doesn't care about you enough?
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Originally Posted by zOOmz
Hey! Wouldn't it be interesting to be the first to have a baby in an Elise?
Just kidding... I hope... Congrats!
I suggested it to James, but the look of sheer horror on his face kinda nixed that idea His sense of humour varies a touch when it comes to his "baby"...
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Originally Posted by Surferjer
Well, I spent 40 days in 2006 away from home racing, and 22 nights. She was quite unhappy about it, but it still happened.
Divorce was on the horizon for almost a year. In hindsight, I should have gotten out. I got my Elise in the middle of it, and didn't really care what she thought. Surprisingly she asked me recently when I was getting my next one, although she is not happy with the possibility of white with green stripes, yet that's what I'm going to get unless I change my mind for LB.
Hmmm. Oh well, guess I don't need to prove to anyone I'm not whipped, but I would indeed have walked if I got the ultimatum. Still would today. If she says car or me, knowing how much I love the car, it's time to bolt anyway.
I am just playing with you Jer, please dont take it the wrong way.
as far as the withe with green stripes, it looked great in the pictures, and now, since she doesnt like it, and told you so, you have NO choice but to get it.
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Originally Posted by joe13531
All I can say is shame on you for wanting such a needy, insecure person. You're an enabler. Both of ya get therapy!
The telepathic mastermind "Serebro" above me said it best... only the Sith deal in absolutes.
I guess that you are probably right, I need therapy too. I tried that when I was 9 after my parents were divorced and hated it because I thought the shrink didn't really care about me just my fathers money. So for the past 25 years I have been living in a fantasy world that I have created full of anything I could afford to help me forget about my wounded inner child. I guess because I am a needy, insecure person I surround myself with the same. Does that make me an enabler?
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.....and now, since she doesnt like it, and told you so, you have NO choice but to get it.
So true. Since she has recently staked claim to the Lexus, and asked me to get my stuff out of it, I will get what I damn well please and in the color I choose. BRP was a compromise choice on the 1st two Elises, and I've loved it, but I want a racier look next time. Minus the cheesy green top. Black, please.
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Originally Posted by cbelon
I guess that you are probably right, I need therapy too. I tried that when I was 9 after my parents were divorced and hated it because I thought the shrink didn't really care about me just my fathers money. So for the past 25 years I have been living in a fantasy world that I have created full of anything I could afford to help me forget about my wounded inner child. I guess because I am a needy, insecure person I surround myself with the same. Does that make me an enabler?
Yes, and knowing you have a problem is the first step! Now, dump the girl.
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Why is it that 99% of women not only are uninterested in cars, they also harbor feelings of anger, hatred and resentment toward them????????????????????? (and yet they covet purses and shoes )
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Originally Posted by mini63
Why is it that 99% of women not only are uninterested in cars, they also harbor feelings of anger, hatred and resentment toward them????????????????????? (and yet they covet purses and shoes )
Possibly an exaggeration here?
If you have a supportive relationship then your partner desires you to have the things that makes you happy...like lots of cars and more women.